How to Stay a Girl’s Girl, Even When You’re Mad at the Other Woman
Staying a "girls girl" means supporting and uplifting other women, even in difficult situations. Buuuuutttt, it can be a little challenging to maintain that mindset when you're upset with another woman for taking your fiance. Here are some tips to help you stay true to yourself and stay a girls girl, even when you’re mad as hell!
Remember who really hurt you. Take a step back and assess the situation. Before reacting, take a moment to reflect on why you're actually upset and who actually hurt you. Try not to misdirect your anger toward her that might just be anger toward your ex. Sure, thinking about her makes you upset, but did your relationship truly fail because of the other woman? Are you actually mad at her, or is your anger more related to your own insecurities (which is a totally natural response!) Understanding the root of your emotions and who/what you are actually hurt by, can help you respond in a more productive way.
Communicate your feelings calmly and constructively. If you do need to confront the other woman (say in a reunion show or something…) do so in a way that is respectful and non-confrontational. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements, and focus on how the situation made you feel rather than attacking the other person. At the end of the day, you can be disappointed by how someone acts, but staying true to yourself and your character will make you feel better in the long run.
Practice empathy. Try to put yourself in the other woman's shoes and understand where she's coming from. This is the hardest one, but can be the most important. Of course this doesn't mean you have to agree with her, but it can help you approach the situation with a more open mind and one that feels less spoiled with toxic anger.
Focus on the bigger picture. Remember that if your relationship was ruined because of another woman, it wasn’t a good relationship! Don't let her consume all your energy and attention. Instead, focus on the things that bring you joy and fulfillment, whether that's your career, hobbies, or other relationships.
Keep lifting other women up. Even if you're upset with one woman, it doesn't mean you should stop supporting and uplifting other women. Take the time to celebrate the accomplishments of other women in your life and offer them support when they need it.
Remember, staying true to yourself and your values while also navigating difficult situations with other women, is going to make you feel way better in the end! Being a "girls girl" isn't always easy, but it's an important part of building strong and supportive relationships with other women… and that’s what it means to be a Jane!